On Growing Older...

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A good friend of mine turned forty last week and it got me thinking about just how much I am enjoying getting older.  The grey hairs, the wrinkles forming at the corners of my eyes, my slowing metabolism...  None of it bothers me in the least.  I have reached a point where I am happy just being me. 

When I was a younger, I spent entirely too much time worrying about what everyone, especially other women, thought of me.  How did I look?  Did I say the proper things?  Was I doing enough stuff?  What about my hubby and son?  Were we the "perfect" family?

It's exhausting trying to live up to the expectations of others.

Somewhere in my mid thirties, I quit caring.  I realized that I have a wonderful family and great group of friends who love me for who I am.  Suddenly none of the other voices seemed to matter anymore. 

I have learned to say, "No," even when I have no excuse other than, "I just don't feel like it."  I no longer feel guilty about making time for myself and the things that are important to me.  Gone are the days of me racing around trying to please everyone else.  I am just as confident whether I am dressed in all my finery or running around in my hubby's ratty HBS T-shirt that I have claimed as my own.  

It's an incredibly freeing place to be.

While I often lament that time seems to fly by all too quickly, especially where my boy is concerned, I do not dread the passage of time.  I look forward to the nuggets of wisdom that can be gleaned from each new season of life.  


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3 comment(s). Leave yours!:

Kris said... Best Blogger Tips

I have been working on saying "No" for awhile now and think that it's wonderful that you are able to do so and not feel any guilt for doing what makes you happy! And to truly be comfortable in your own skin I imagine it is such a freeing and beautiful thing! To simply just be. I will get there too. I am determined to and willing and in the process of putting in the work to get there. My blogging is part of my effort to do something for ME! And worrying hasn't done anything other than cause me to miss out on the things that really matter... Thank you for this much needed reminder. Stories like yours are such an inspiration and proof that it can be done :) Thank you for sharing! Be Blessed!

Melissa said... Best Blogger Tips

Refreshing! :)

I'm also a fan of NO. Though my skill with using it sometimes still needs work.

helen said... Best Blogger Tips

keep your positive attitude and you'll be a happy camper no matter how much time passes.

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